Just think a minute... it could change everything
Think a minute…A husband and wife had not spoken to each other for days. They were still angry at one another since their last fight. By the 5th day, the husband realized he had a problem. He needed his wife to wake him up early the next day to catch a plane for an important business trip. But not wanting to talk to her and lose the fight, he put a note on the kitchen table. It read: “Please wake me up at 5AM tomorrow morning.” The next morning when the husband woke up, it was 7 o’clock! He was so angry that he had missed his plane, he was just about to yell at his wife for not waking him when he found a note next to his bed. It read: “Wake up! It’s 5 o’clock!”
Why do we find it so hard to say those 2 little words, “I’m sorry”? If we’re honest, most of us are better at remembering the people who should tell us they’re sorry than we are at paying our own “sorry” debt. Yet if we would just apologize sooner we could save our friendships, family relationships, as well as a lot of time, energy, even money. A British study showed that 37% of people who had sued doctors or hospitals in court would not have done it if their doctor had simply apologized to them.
You know, when it comes to taking the blame for something, most people fall into 1 of these 2 groups. The first group almost never thinks that they caused any of the problem. It’s always someone else’s fault and they should apologize to you. The second group often blame themselves for causing the problem and they apologize quickly. But both extremes of always being a blame taker or a blame shifter are not healthy.
The key in each situation is to be honest. Then admit that since it took both of you to cause the problem of offense or misunderstanding, it will probably take both of you to get out of it. Jesus Christ promises that if we’ll give Him total control of our heart and attitude, He will help us to start seeing and understanding ourselves honestly and responsibly, so we’ll know when and how to apologize in each situation. He’ll help you to forgive those people who wronged you, so you’ll finally be free from the heavy burden of blame. Just Think a Minute…